Would you father a child with a WG if she asks?

I've had a conversation with one WG, so here's the background and conditions.

Background/Condition
1. She doesn't think any guy would accept her anymore, but loves kids, so she wants kids without marriage.
2. She would not allow access to her kid. Perhaps next time when the child is older.
3. We both would do a full medical check-up.
4. Says she doesn't need your money.

I can think of some pros and cons, but bros please chip in and help me in case LB is taking over my brain!

Pros
1. I would love to have a child out there.
2. No obligation for me to take care at all.
3. Could potentially catch up 20-30years later.

Cons/trap
1. She might turn it against you and ask for marriage.
2. Or ask for more money? Bottomless pit.
3. Blackmail you into something else?
4. Use local laws to trap you into alimony or something? (Any idea what's the laws in China/Thailand/Philippines?)

Am I missing something??

1. Why would you love to have a fatherless child out there ??
2. Sounds like you don't want any part of seeing your child grow up.
3 What makes you think the kid would want to " Catch Up " with you ?


Sorry bloke but that's the most stupid thing I have ever heard anyone think about doing.

[ Last edited by  austin821 at 21-11-2019 10:27 ]

Sounds like she is trying to trap you for cash or into marrying her.  I would be careful about doing this.

Not in any way possible:

your reasons are utterly valid


Cons/trap
1. She might turn it against you and ask for marriage.
2. Or ask for more money? Bottomless pit.
3. Blackmail you into something else?
4. Use local laws to trap you into alimony or something? (Any idea what's the laws in China/Thailand/Philippines?)

https://www.pri.org/stories/2014-02-23/when-mum-prostitute

This sounds like the best idea ever. I can't believe no one has ever come up with it before.##



The only way this happens is with a very details legally binding contract, where:
1) She pays you to impregnate her.
2) You are free from any future financially liability.
3) She is placed under a gag order in revealing details about you without consent.

Even then, the (lack of) rationalisation of bringing a child into the world under those circumstances is borderline negligent and insane.

If she loves kids, then she should become an au pair or look into adoption. If you think catching up after 20+ years is a good idea, maybe you should stick to something more simple like getting a dog.

Chill guys, hahaha I'm aware of the red flags involved. I'm not ready to do it, but just wanted to throw it out here. Seems like the answer here is an overwhelming NO.

From the girl's perspective, I can understand why they would think of such an idea - they want their own child rather than adopt, and can potentially get a financial backer

Why on earth would she want a child without the father?  Who will support the child? None of this makes any sense.. aka big red flag!

Even lets say shes legit about having a kid no strings attached, would you really want to know you have a fatherless kid out there that you are forbidden to see? What if you meet someone you love and want want to marry her later on? Would you tell her about the child or cover it?  Whatever you're feeling about it now might (and probably wont) be the same way you feel 10 years from now.

from what I understand of her - she really loves kids and would adopt a kid.

thinking from this perspective, she would rather make her own (compared to adoption) so it's her real kid.

But yes, there are many red flags so I wanted to seek alternative views here

Perhaps you’re not already a father and don’t know the overwhelming love you feel for your children.  Also the emotional need a child has for both parents   That’s probably why most responders don’t understand the list of “pros” as including not raising your child.

I guess is a WG, who sees many many customers and knows many more people outside of her work, why she would select ME to be the father of her child.  It’s easy to let ego cloud the obvious I guess.

I really dont mean to bring this up again, but I recently came across this news article and it shows what some Chinese single ladies might be thinking about. Because I speak fluent mandarin, they sometimes open up a lot to me and I have received a lot of weird propositions......

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/ ... riage-rate-12158384

Again... I'm not saying I want to do it.........

WTF dude was my reaction reading your post. A resounding NO DON'T DO IT! please. I don't need to give you the reasons why but please no.

From what you wrote in the pros and cons …
Seems like all you're worried about are the $ aspects, so there's only one question you should ask yourself … is she able to blackmail you if the situation goes bad ?

you're right, there's a risk of blackmail especially when there's a human life involved. I'm ready to set aside monthly cash to financially maintain the child (and the WG) so hopefully that lowers the risk.

Anyway, I'm not extremely keen on pushing forward this plan, just throwing it out for discussion.