Reply #4 hcnova's post
I'm no psychologist, but I think the first thing you need to do is stop placing blame. Stop saying you're sexually repressed. A glass is never half full or half empty. There is a half a glass. The more important thing, is to figure out what you're going to do with that half glass. Whine that you have half a glass? Enjoy that half a glass? Or fill it up? Or another choice?
These guys that you're envious of.... Are they your peers? Or are you talking about porn?
Peers.... Chances are... They're lying. Young people have a tendency to exaggerate about their sexual prowess.
Porn... Uhmmm... It's acting mate.
You saying that you're not confident about your masculinity... That's not something you find thru sex mate. It's something that you need to figure out within yourself. If you ARE a nice guy at heart... Being a j*ck*ss will only make you feel more guilty. Nothing wrong with being a nice guy. I mean...Well... Be nice... But don't be a pushover. Lol
I don't think you'll find any of the answers you're looking for with a WG. Or from any sexual encounter. All the things you've mentioned that you find are problems and issues are common themes within young adults that require personal growth. The guys that get the most girls aren't the ones that look good, or have money, or are athletic, or whatever..... The guys that get the most girls are the ones most comfortable with themselves. Assuredness in who they are. Learn to love yourself mate, grow from within, and stop placing blame.
Sex is overrated. Find love, make love, celebrate love. And if your partner is open to trying new things too... Bonus.
Bonne chance.
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