@simphbasan
Thank you for sharing your firsthand account and experience on SA. I am very happy for you, sounds like you found exactly what you were looking for. I am wondering if it is "normal" to develop feelings for your sugarbaby/sugardaddy? Seems like that is a bit out of bounds, for some people. The idea of a SD/SB is to have "NSA" no strings attached. The following are rules posted on another board, by a wellknown contributor who goes by "ShysterJon". He set up 12 "rules" for a successful SD/SB relationship. See if you guys agree. He gave permission for others to use these rules, and he says to feel free to modify or personalize it.
WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR IN A SD-SB RELATIONSHIP
1. HONESTY. If there's deception in an SD-SB relationship, it most likely will not work. This doesn't mean we volunteer information about every aspect of our lives. But the need for honesty requires that whatever we say to each other must be true.
2. We will have respect, affection, concern, interest, and maybe even "love" for each other, but we will NEVER "fall in love" with each other. There MUST be boundaries. Our personal lives need to stay out of our relationship. There can't be jealousy, possessiveness, or judgmental behavior.
3. I must let you be young and you must let me be, well, not so young.
4. There must be realistic, reasonable, and clear expectations between us, but with flexibility for modification. Good comunication is a must.
5. NO DRAMA and NO ILLICIT SUBSTANCES when we're together.
6. We each understand we have mutual obligations under our agreement, and the right to benefits under our agreement stems from full performance of our obligations.
7. I will always give you your support cheerfully, on time, and without having to be asked.
8. During our time together, we will give each other our complete and undivided attention. This means cell phones, computers, Blackberrys, and TV are all off and there are no unexpected visitors.
9. Normally, we will see each other twice a week, once for play and maybe once for an outing of your choice. The outings could be to do things you might not normally do with your circle of friends. We should each try our utmost to make sure we meet our schedule and last-minute cancellations should be for emergencies only.
10. We will have a safe, comfortable, clean, and accessible place to meet.
11. Some SDs have more than one SB, but that's not for me. I like to devote my time, attention, and resources to one SB. You, in turn, must be satisfied with only one SD.
12. Either of us may end our agreement at any time and for any reason. When our arrangement ends, we should each try our best to make the transition smooth. | |
